By Katie Portman - Pouting in heels.
I haven’t met a mum yet who doesn’t worry about her parenting skills or sometimes believe that she’s not good enough for her children.
Personally speaking, I probably think about my role as a mum at least half a dozen times a day. Becoming a better mum is what I always aim to be and yet it’s so incredibly hard at times isn’t it?
You can wake up with the best intentions to be the most incredible mum that day and then before you’ve even headed out the door on the school run or got your baby down for his first nap, you’ve lost your temper, almost cried with exhaustion or felt utterly clueless.
It happens. And furthermore, it happens to everyone.
Becoming a parent has been the absolute highlight of my life, however I’ll be the first one to admit that I’ve struggled at times. Many times in fact.
Add to that the overwhelming advice you’re given by so many people around you - from interfering relatives to well meaning friends - and it’s no wonder really that so many of us don’t know what to do for the best or how to become better at this incredibly important job.
So just how do you become a better mum? Well, I’m no expert, but here’s what I believe.
- Tear up the rule books
All the ‘shoulds’ we are given need to stop, which is why tearing up all of the parenting rule books is a really good place to start. As a mum, there really is no right or wrong way, as long as your child is loved, safe and taken care of.
- Be kind to yourself
Whether that means being more aware of the negative chatter inside your head or making an effort to find five minutes for yourself each day for some peace and quiet, I’m a firm believer that I am a much better (and happier) mum when I’ve been kinder to myself.
- Think presence not presents
Over the years I’ve learned that my daughter would much rather have my undivided time and attention than another toy to play with. Your presence really is the best gift you can give your child / children.
- Watch your ‘mum guilt’ levels
It’s with us everyday and never really leaves us, but it’s important to keep an eye on it and keep it in check. There will always be times when we could have done better or been better, but sometimes getting through the day is enough. If you’re doing the best you can, with what you have to offer, than you’re doing a great job.
- Cherish them
From the moment they’re born, right through into childhood, teens and beyond, all of our children deserve and need to feel loved and cherished. Allow your face to light up with happiness when you see them, listen to their worries, squeeze them tight and smother them with kisses whenever they’ll let you and you’ll be the best mum in the world.